Respect the happiness of people with disabilities

Ms. Nguyen Thi Anh Ngoc has a happy family with her husband (photo provided by the character)

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For many years, Ms. DTL (born in 1989) in a ward of Kinh Mon town has lived with her parents and her brother's family. She was diagnosed by a doctor as having an intellectual disability, but she can still do simple tasks such as picking onions, planting, cooking rice, etc. Knowing that she is slow, she does not dare to hope for a perfect family, only wishing to have a child to take care of. At first, her family supported this dream. Her mother went to an acquaintance to ask for a child for her daughter. But later, when they discovered that Ms. L.'s health was not good, the family forbade her from contacting that man. Her parents did not allow her to go out, if necessary, her mother would follow. After being forbidden, Ms. L. was sad, drank alcohol and smoked tobacco many times, which had a negative impact on her health.

Like Ms. L., Ms. NTTH (born in 1994, from Hoa Binh province) also encountered many obstacles when reaching her happiness. Ms. H. is only 1.18 m tall and has a different type of disability. When she decided to come to her current husband, Mr. NVĐ (born in 1982, in Phu Thu ward, Kinh Mon, with a motor disability), they were strongly opposed by his family. Despite many objections, Ms. H. and her husband still came together. They got married in 2019 and now have 1 son. Ms. H. is currently a worker in a garment company, Mr. Đ. works for hire to support the family.

Need to change perception

Unlike the two cases above, Ms. Nguyen Thi Nha (born in 1983), an office worker of the Association of the Disabled in Hai Duong province, was supported by her family to find her own happiness. She was born with a left arm amputated from the elbow down. Her mother once said, “Your happiness is up to you to decide, your parents will not interfere. Whether you choose wisely or wrongly, you must take responsibility for your own life.”

Thanks to the support of her family, she later found her own happiness. That person took care of her for many days in the hospital when she had cancer. After recovering, she and her husband prepared several meals to invite family and relatives, and together they built a family.

Like Ms. Nha, Ms. Nguyen Thi Anh Ngoc (born in 1992, from Kinh Mon), currently living in Hanoi, is lucky to be able to choose her own happiness. She is paralyzed from the waist down. She currently has a happy family with a husband who is not disabled and a beautiful child. She recalls that before getting married, her lover's father took the initiative to text her to encourage her and contact her parents to discuss the marriage.

According to Ms. Nha, people with disabilities face many barriers in education, medical treatment, rehabilitation, attitudes, behavior, job search, etc. Many people also have difficulty finding their own happiness, and the barriers come from their own family members. Family members preventing people with disabilities from finding their own happiness is against the Law on People with Disabilities. The law clearly stipulates that families must respect the opinions of people with disabilities in deciding on issues related to the lives of the disabled person and their family. As a person with disabilities herself, she understands the inferiority complex of people in the same situation. She herself has struggled with herself many times, overcoming her own complexes to move towards happiness. However, not many people have the right perception of this issue.

“Many parents of disabled people do not know that they are breaking the law by becoming an obstacle for their children. Disabled people absolutely deserve happiness and everyone must respect their wishes. I hope that society will gradually reduce prejudices and respect the rights and interests of disabled people more so that they do not have to suffer more disadvantages and can seek and build their own happiness,” said Ms. Nha.

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