7 reasons why marriages fail

Most of us enter a relationship with the long-term in mind, hoping to find the right person who understands us, loves us, and has similar goals and interests.

In fact, finding your perfect other half right from the start is not easy, but is a process that requires a lot of understanding and love.

Here are seven common reasons why relationships fail, according to Annie Tanasugarn, PhD, a member of the American Association for Cognitive and Behavioral Therapy.

More like roommates than spouses

You and your spouse sleep together every night but other than that, you feel deeply empty.

When working with clients, psychologists often hear phrases like "we're like roommates" and "we don't have much in common."

The reality is that couples in this situation often lose their emotional connection and don't know how to rekindle the spark. Some may feel isolated from their partner or uncomfortable being together.

Contempt

Contempt is perhaps the biggest sign that a relationship is doomed to fail because it makes an individual feel inadequate and unappreciated. Contempt is often expressed through sarcastic, condescending language, hostility, or dismissive, dismissive behavior. It can also be expressed through actions and body language such as pouting, rolling eyes, and waving hands.

Different speeds when approaching the target

Everyone approaches life differently. This is not a problem in itself, but it can quickly escalate into a red flag. For example, one person prioritizes work while the other prioritizes rest; one person is unhappy with their current position while the other lacks ambition. Especially when one person is trying to deal with emotional issues while the other is not interested.

Lack of trust

Trust is linked to the basic need for safety, consistency, and security in relationships. If you or your partner have been abandoned or betrayed in your adult years, you may find it difficult to trust each other.

Symptoms of a lack of trust include jealousy, controlling, manipulation, unrealistic expectations, and emotional or physical infidelity. If trust issues are present, you may have difficulty feeling empathy or trusting your partner.

Lack of independence

Some people are unable or unwilling to spend time alone. They may feel that being alone is a sign that their partner no longer loves them and wants to leave them. However, spending time alone is important for self-care, building independence, and fostering interdependence in a relationship.

Communicate

Healthy communication is more than just talking to be heard. It involves active listening, pausing, reflection, and empathy. When communication is limited or problematic, it can weaken the foundation of a relationship and make it more difficult to resolve any issues.

No effort

When deciding to love and live together, it means both parties must make an effort to maintain and build.

One of the biggest predictors of a breakup is when one or both partners lack commitment or are in the relationship solely out of fear of being alone. When one partner stops making an effort or becomes emotionally disconnected, this is a warning sign that the relationship may not be sustainable.