The love of Mrs. Hao and her husband who was reported dead twice

2 death notices

Mr. Nguyen Dinh Nguyen was born into a family of 4 siblings, 2 boys and 2 girls. Following the sacred call of the Fatherland, in 1978, he enlisted in a unit of Military Region 7, tasked with protecting the southwestern border. During this war, Mr. Nguyen participated in 9 battles. In the 10th battle, on September 26, 1979, he was seriously injured, transferred by the unit to the infirmary of Regiment K23 (Cambodia) for treatment and was confirmed dead. The unit made a death notice and sent it to the People's Committee of Dai Hop commune to deliver to his family.

Mr. Nguyen said that on the way back to his hometown, he regained consciousness and was taken to Military Hospital 175 (Ho Chi Minh City) for treatment. Here, due to the severity of his injuries, the doctors once again concluded that he had died and took him to the morgue. At night, when the professional team brought the body to the morgue, they found that he was still moving, so they transferred him to the hospital room. He had a Soviet expert operate to remove a piece of shrapnel from his head, but the other piece was too deep to be removed.

The injury left him with a partial skull fracture, paralysis on his right side, epilepsy, and 81% permanent disability. He often had seizures, screamed, could not speak or hear, and needed constant care.

Thanks to his achievements in combat, Mr. Nguyen was awarded the Glorious Soldier Medal by the State in 1981.

Loyal love

In the small house in Bao Dap village, Mr. Nguyen can now walk normally. Although he cannot speak clearly and the person opposite him has to speak loudly for him to understand, Mr. Nguyen can remember and recount everything from the past clearly. To have such a positive change today, it is largely thanks to the care of Mrs. Nguyen Thi Hao (born in 1954), his wife.

When Mr. Nguyen joined the army, the couple already had one child and she was pregnant with their second child. When the second son was born, because she had to stay home to take care of her young child, Ms. Hao could not go to work at the cooperative, so the family's life became increasingly difficult. Food and drink for the three mother and children and her father-in-law were all provided by her mother's family.

In 1986, implementing the Party and State's policy of welcoming war invalids back to their families, Mrs. Hao volunteered to write a petition to welcome him back. At this time, Mr. Nguyen's illness had not improved, and when he had an attack, he would scream and run all over the village. Once, he had an epileptic seizure, and even though Mrs. Hao and her children had gone to her mother's hometown to take refuge, he still took a knife and went down to look for him.

Despite the heavy burden of raising three school-age children and taking care of her sick husband, Ms. Hao still works hard and finds ways to overcome the difficulties. To take care of her family, Ms. Hao wakes up early in the morning to sell shrimp, fish, crabs and clams at the market, goes to work in the fields in the afternoon, and threshes and pounds rice in the evening.

“He often went to the hospital and every time he did, I sent my child to my mother’s family to take care of him. I took advantage of the time at home to work, take care of food and clothing for the whole family and save a little money in case I had to take him to the hospital,” Ms. Hao said.

During the years together, despite all the hardships and difficulties, Mr. Nguyen could not help, but Ms. Hao never once complained or regretted marrying him. “Every time I saw him having an epileptic seizure, running out into the street, making sounds imitating gunshots, I felt so sorry for him that I always thought of ways to make up for the losses he had to endure due to the war,” Ms. Hao shared.

Mr. Nguyen Xuan Chinh, Head of the Movement Committee (Provincial Veterans Association) said that this is a typical veteran family of the province as Mr. Nguyen himself has many contributions to the neighboring country, the family is harmonious, and the children are raised successfully.

With Mrs. Hao's steadfast love, care that did not fear hardship or suffering, and Mr. Nguyen's efforts, a happy ending came to them, helping them fulfill their marriage vow of living together until "old age".