Teaching children to live positively - Helping children be optimistic in all situations

Optimistic children can make people around them happy

A positive attitude is not a trait. In fact, it is something you develop from a young age.

The way parents educate their children will greatly contribute to shaping their personality. That is why parents should teach their children with a positive attitude. That way, children will be able to think optimistically in all situations.

Mind-Bending Influence

Not only adults are prone to falling into a negative state due to failure and worry. In fact, even children are no exception. Because, when a complete thinking system has been formed, children will know how to compare, be sad, and bored. However, if that situation occurs for a long time and continuously, it will certainly affect the child's psychology negatively; From there, it will have a bad impact on thinking, as well as learning and relationships. Therefore, according to experts, training children to think positively is something parents should do from a young age.

Surely, any parent will feel unhappy when hearing their child share negative thoughts, or sadness, anger, disappointment. However, a sad truth proven by science is: People naturally indulge in negative thoughts more than positive ones. Children are no exception.

This negative attitude often stems from fear, doubt, or shame. These feelings produce mood-altering chemicals in the brain. In fact, a positive or negative attitude can shape how a child sees themselves and the world.

According to psychologist Le Khanh, positive thinking is looking at things in a positive light, being able to find the good in the bad. In addition, it is also when we can direct all thoughts and judgments in a better direction.

“It is estimated that every day, the mind produces about 30,000 - 50,000 thoughts. Of this large number, how many thoughts are useful and how many are a waste of energy?”, expert Le Khanh cited.

To classify, scientists have divided thoughts into 4 groups: Positive, negative, wasteful and necessary thinking. Expert Le Khanh explains that positive thinking is thinking that is beneficial not only for oneself but also for others, such as: Confidence, optimism, love, tolerance, solidarity...

Meanwhile, negative thinking is thinking that harms yourself and others such as: low self-esteem, jealousy, guilt, selfishness, etc. In addition, wasteful thinking is “garbage” thinking. This thinking means thinking about what has happened or has not happened yet. From there, it consumes energy and wastes time in the present.

“A candidate in the exam room, but daydreaming about the upcoming vacation, or imagining the invigilator giving him the answer key instead of focusing on doing the test. That is wasteful thinking,” this expert cited.

Finally, the necessary thinking is the necessary thinking about the work that needs to be done and solved.

“The way we think contributes to determining the quality of our lives. All thoughts, whether necessary or not, negative or positive, affect our emotions, words and actions. And invisibly, they will also affect us for good or bad, depending on the type of thinking they originate from,” Mr. Le Khanh explained.

Therefore, this expert said, forming and developing positive thinking can create many advantages in relationships. Therefore, Mr. Khanh suggested that positive thinking can be applied through applying it to personal activities. Accordingly, it can be formed and applied in building activities as well as responding to external influences. In addition, it can be applied through group activities. Specifically, in the way of behaving with other members in groups such as friends or class, children should have positive thoughts about words and actions. Although not too optimistic, there should not be negative thoughts about people's behavior.

In addition, a positive attitude can be applied through communication and behavior. In communication, it is necessary to always have a natural, optimistic attitude and pay more attention to listening than talking. In particular, you should not impose your own way of speaking on others. The important thing is to see the positive points in the words and behaviors of others. From there, respond in this direction.

“Positive thinking - the factor that brings us not only joy and health but also opens the door to good communication skills, brings results to life and leads to success”, expert Le Khanh emphasized.

Benefits of positive thinking

Meanwhile, parent consultant Nguyen Tu Anh shared that parents are role models for their children to follow. Therefore, if you want your children to become a certain person, first of all, parents must become that person. Parents' words and actions must always go hand in hand. That way, parents will be able to educate their children in the most comprehensive way.

When parents think positively, they will be able to instill optimism and love of life in their children. However, before that, parents must always believe in life. This female expert said that there are countless benefits when teaching children to think positively. First of all, their relationships will be expanded. Children who are always optimistic and love life will make themselves happier and more comfortable.

“It’s the same for us. We don’t have to look far, just refer to ourselves to realize that. A child is the same. They like to be around and communicate with children who often play with them. Or, individuals can help each other with homework, fix a toy together…”, Ms. Tu Anh said.

According to this expert, most children who are open and have positive thoughts will always attract more friends. Because they always keep a fresh, radiant look on their faces. This always creates sympathy for the other person. Meanwhile, quiet children with negative thoughts tend to push away relationships and do not want to socialize much with their peers.

Besides, it is important that optimistic children will always feel happy, even with very small things. Ms. Tu Anh shared that a child's joy is very simple, they do not need anything too luxurious. Simply receiving love from everyone, or successfully assembling a toy, children can also shout in joy.

In addition, children with positive thinking tend to solve problems smoothly. For children with negative thinking, whenever they encounter difficulties or disappointments, they often think of finding ways to free themselves. These thoughts probably do not only occur in children, because many adults will also fall into the same situation. Therefore, parents are encouraged to train their children to have the habit of looking at everything positively. Thanks to that, it helps children always solve problems easily.

Not only do positive children bring joy to themselves, they also have the ability to spread optimism to those around them.

“Have you ever wondered why some children can be optimistic and love life all the time without feeling sad? They always comfort and encourage those around them. Do they never encounter any problems? Yes. But children always know how to solve problems by themselves. Only people who always think positively can give the most accurate and reasonable advice,” the expert commented.

Perhaps, no one can deny that the lovely gestures accompanied by the words of children will be like a sweet medicine. This will help people around the child always be happy and joyful.

According to Education and Times