3 ways to resolve marital conflicts

Writer Balzac once wrote: "Husband and wife can maintain a happy family by knowing and understanding each other, then tolerating and loving each other."

No matter how long a couple has been together, they are ultimately two independent individuals. No matter how compatible their views are, there will be times when they disagree and argue over all sorts of issues.

Not arguing does not mean that the relationship between the two is good. Arguing is not a marital crisis, arguing is not as scary as you imagine. What is scary is that after arguing, the relationship situation becomes heavier and more serious.

Therefore, how to solve problems when arguing and after arguing is very important. Below are ways to resolve problems when arguing for couples, no matter how tense they are, they can be resolved.

1. Try to stay calm and don't get into a cold war.

Whether it's a couple's story or a marital relationship, there is a word that appears quite often and has a strong impact on emotions, which is cold violence.

When something happens, instead of talking to each other to solve it, they just flare up the problem and then keep silent. They think that will stop the conflict between husband and wife. However, they do not think that the silence will create an ellipsis, both sides are still tense with each other, everything is hanging in the air and not resolved. The couple will become extremely tired.

So, after an argument, handle it calmly to avoid further damage from it and of course, don't resort to cold violence.

Cold violence transforms the confrontational form of family conflict from low-level physical abuse to high-level mental oppression, and at the same time transforms physical confrontation into psychological confrontation.

It's like a tumor in a marriage, it may not be fatal but the pain that follows is indescribable.

2. Be considerate of each other and don't blame blindly.

Forgiveness in a relationship is a lubricant for both parties' feelings. When faced with differences, try to understand each other, reduce accusations to help the relationship become more harmonious.

People cannot escape from doing wrong. Many people have said that whenever there is a dispute, their wives will frantically bring up old stories, even stories from 10-20 years ago. That seriously affects the husband's psychology, the argument cannot come to an end.

So when arguing, instead of bringing up old conflicts, care more about each other and don't blindly blame the other person.

In addition to reducing the repetition, you should also have a positive attitude to make peace to shorten the cooling time in the argument, helping to heal the relationship as soon as possible.

When a couple argues many times, the problem sometimes lies in their attitude. Therefore, after a heated argument, calm down, take a step back, stop blaming, care more about the other person, and proactively resolve the problem.

3. Communicate with each other

In fact, many couples keep "digging up" old stories while arguing because the pain of the old story has not yet subsided while new stories have come.

Therefore, if you really want to reduce the damage caused by conflicts, it is best to know how to open up to each other. Husband and wife should let each other see clearly their feelings and thoughts. Then both of you calm down and think again. Talking, communicating and exchanging will help both of you have a more objective view.

In psychology, there is a method to bridge the gap between people called "confession". This method emphasizes sincerity and frankness in communication between people.

Only when a couple cares for each other can they think for each other, manage and share together, understand each other's strengths and weaknesses, and eliminate the harm caused by quarrels.

By Family