Divorce alert in Hai Duong:Last post - Out of love, still meaning

Become friends, raise children together

Divorce is something no one wants for both the person involved and those around them. When forced to divorce to find a way out for both, how to treat each other and raise children in a civilized manner is also an issue.

According to some divorced people, the first thing after divorce is that the direct caregiver needs to act so that the children feel that even though their parents are separated, they are not abandoned and are still fully cared for. For those who do not live directly with their children, in addition to providing child support, they should regularly visit and share with their children. This helps children understand that separation is an adult's job, and that their parents' care and support for them are still guaranteed.

This civilized behavior is being pursued by many people. There are many cases of divorce but still consider each other as close friends, still take their children out to eat together, attend school events together to make up for their children as much as possible. Many divorced couples explain that because they are not happy living together, they free each other, but the children are not guilty of anything. In front of their children, they still speak well of each other so that their children do not hate anyone and are not psychologically affected. There are even cases where after the divorce, both sides have new families but their children are still allowed to participate in activities of both families, becoming older brothers and sisters of their half-siblings or half-siblings. In general, according to the Vietnamese mentality, after a divorce, children often choose to live with their mother. Therefore, the way a mother behaves when talking about her father is also very important, affecting the children's psychology.

Conflict resolution

Ms. Nguyen Thi Viet Nga, Deputy Head of the National Assembly Delegation of Hai Duong province, said that strengthening and building a prosperous, equal, progressive and happy family will gradually limit the current increasing divorce trend. It is necessary to strengthen propaganda and education on marriage and family, eliminate backward views, and promote good customs on love, marriage and family. Husband and wife need to be responsible for maintaining, nurturing and developing the love of family members. Effectively implement the movements "Building a cultural family", "Building a prosperous, equal, happy and progressive family". Promote the role of local authorities, associations and unions to do a good job of mediation from the grassroots level, resolving conflicts as soon as they arise.

GrandmaPham Thi Phuong, Vice President of the Women's Union of Hai Duong province, said that in order to reduce the divorce rate, the unions at all levels have disseminated and popularized the law, focusing on the Law on Marriage and Family, the Law on Gender Equality, the Law on Children, the Law on Prevention and Control of Domestic Violence, etc. through many forms of oral communication, policy dialogues, competitions, and propaganda on mass media and social networks. "We continue to maintain 265 models of Building a Family with 5 Yes, 3 Clean, 134 models of safety for women and children in 235 communes, wards and towns, etc. Thereby, supporting women to properly perceive their roles and responsibilities in building family happiness. In the coming time, the Union will coordinate with the Department of Justice and the Provincial Youth Union to organize forums to provide advice on marriage and family knowledge for members and young people," Ms. Phuong added.

Hai Duong province has 2,137 mediation teams with more than 14,000 mediators. To limit divorce, it is necessary to further promote the role of mediation teams in proactively grasping and resolving marital conflicts from the beginning, avoiding the situation of filing a lawsuit in anger. Young people should equip themselves with knowledge and experience of living in a family organization before getting married. Couples should understand their role and position in building a home; know how to love and respect each other to preserve and develop "social cells". The Party and the State always affirm that family is one of the important factors determining the sustainable development of the country. Therefore, investing in the family is also investing in the sustainable development of the country.