7 principles parents should apply to raise successful children

Whether a child grows up to be successful and a good person or not is not only related to the child's own efforts, but also closely related to the daily actions and words of the parents towards the child. After all, children are miniature images of their parents, the family is the first environment that children come into contact with, and at the same time, parents are also mirrors that reflect the words and actions of their children.

Let's refer to the tips below to apply to teaching your children.

1. Don't follow the crowd

What parents should do is to cultivate their children's ability to think independently and not force them to follow the crowd, whether in school, life, work, etc. For example, parents should not force their children to choose a major because they feel many people choose it. Instead, encourage them to study what they like.

Parents should advise their children: "You must have your own judgment and thoughts. You cannot observe what others are doing and follow them blindly. Ask yourself if it is suitable and if you like it."

Independent thinking helps children learn, explore and research on their own, thereby knowing what they like and being able to develop their strengths. Without independent thinking, children are easily drawn into negative social issues, follow the crowd, cannot find their hidden potential, become passive and easily discouraged.

2. Don't worry about what your child can do

Famous Ukrainian educator Suhomlinsky once said: "In the process of children growing up, let them try to do what they want to do. Create a free environment for children to develop better."

If parents want to cultivate their children's creativity and self-care, they must first learn to let their children do something within their capabilities, even if they really cause trouble for their parents. But education is such a process, let children do it themselves, draw their own experiences, lessons, and grow up on their own.

3. Don't be too protective of your child.

"The Jews have a famous saying: "Parents should not be housekeepers but be advisors to their children." It means that you should only guide and advise your children, not be too protective and do everything for them. Absolutely do not fall into the 421 disease (4 grandparents, 2 parents surrounding 1 child) because that is no different from parents willing to be slaves to their children and only poison them.

Jewish mothers give their children "fire love" - ​​that is, to kindle and encourage, not just to give their children a sense of security and protection. Loving children for Jews means having a long-term vision, bringing lifelong benefits to their children, training them to become brave and truly strong in life.

4. Don't let your child become complacent

In the journey of raising children, parents should not pamper and overprotect their children, this will make children increasingly dependent and easily develop complacency. If children want to achieve great things, they must know how to bow their heads humbly and study constantly.

When children achieve excellent results, in addition to encouragement and moderate praise, parents should let their children know that: even if they are very good, they should still do everything with the mindset of someone who is learning from better people around them.

"There is always a mountain higher than the mountain", if you have just achieved a few small achievements and become arrogant, complacent, and boastful, not only will you be looked down upon by others, but you will also stop in the same place and get stuck in that "circle of complacency".

5. Don't worry about your child's choices

In the classic children's novel "To Kill a Mockingbird" by American writer Harper Lee, it is written: "When you get old and look back on your life, you will see that studying abroad, deciding to start a career, choosing a lover and getting married are all important changes in life. Adults choose their own path and children need to have the right to choose too."

Parents should give their children the freedom to choose, for example, when they are young, let them choose what to wear and what to do. That way, when they grow up and are faced with choices that can change their destiny, they will know how to make the right choice.

6. Don't let your child live a dissolute life.

If a child wants to succeed, talent and hard work are not enough. Talent without hard work and self-discipline will not be fully developed.

Parents should not think that if their children are smart and talented, they can let loose and do whatever they want, such as playing games, staying up late, playing with their phones, because over time, they will be drawn into these pastimes and become lazy and reluctant to study. Parents need to have strict discipline so that their children can "behave".

Helping children form the three correct views above is extremely important, especially during the 3-6 years old period, which is the "golden" period for children's personality development. In addition to personality and good habits, parents need to cultivate in their children the necessary skills for success, such as imagination, thinking ability and creativity.

7. Not caring about children's secrets

Secrets are the growth of personal consciousness. For children, secrets are like the formation of the ego. If parents discover that their children have secrets, they should feel happy instead of panicking. Having secrets means that children have an inner world and want to have an independent space. Therefore, cherish this immature growth.

Parents who truly understand need to communicate well, understand the heart of the child, not pry into the child's privacy. For each person, secrets are always closely related to responsibility and need to be shouldered independently. Thus, having secrets is also a necessary way for children to learn to be independent and mature. Therefore, parents should always allow children to have their own secrets.

By Family