Children who grow up to be successful often "possess" this type of parent.

Many people think that the path to raising successful children sounds vague because there is a lot of advice, some based on science and some depending on the experience of predecessors.

In fact, there are common traits among parents who raise resilient, confident, and well-adjusted children.

Parents as "learning partners"

If parents do this role well, children will enjoy learning from a young age, even before they start school.

Ronald Ferguson, a Harvard professor and author of "The Formula: Unlocking the Secrets to Raising Highly Successful Children," believes that parents must first play this role to help their children succeed. The most successful children can read basic words in kindergarten, and can maintain a top position in the classroom, always responding positively to teachers' lectures.

Parents let children do housework

Julie Lythcott-Haims - American educator, speaker, author of famous works such as "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult"; "How to Raise an Adult, on parenting"... shared on TED Talks about the research "The Grant Study": parents who let their children do housework from a young age will help them grow up to be successful.

Ms. Julie Lythcott-Haims believes that children who are assigned by their parents to help with housework will have better relationships with colleagues and be more empathetic when they grow up because they understand the feeling of sharing work with their parents when they were young, and at the same time they can take on tasks and jobs independently.

Parents teach their children social skills

A study by Pennsylvania State University and Duke University of more than 700 American children from kindergarten to age 25 found a link between social skills learned in kindergarten and success as adults 20 years later.

A 20-year study found that socially competent children who could cooperate with peers without prompting, help others, understand emotions, and solve problems on their own were more likely to earn a college degree and have a steady job by age 25 than those with limited social skills.

People with limited social skills are also at high risk of engaging in social evils.

“This research shows that helping children develop social and emotional skills is one of the most important things we can do to prepare them for a bright future,” said Kristin Schubert, program director at the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, which funded the study.

From a young age, these skills can determine whether a child goes to college or prison, and whether they have a stable job or break the law.

Parents teach children empathy

Michele Borba is an educational psychologist, parenting expert, and author of Why Some Children Struggle and Others Shine.

Michele Borba shares that one of the obvious characteristics of successful children is that their parents often show empathy for their children. Parents should show concern for their children by saying things like: "You look so happy" or "You look sad".

Ask your child about their feelings. This can help them identify their feelings and express them without shame. Parents can ask questions like, “How does that make you feel?” or “Does that sound scary?”

Parents should also share their feelings so that children feel safe sharing their feelings with their parents.

Don't forget to ask your child to pay attention to the feelings of the people around them. If you're at the park, show your child how to observe people's attitudes and ask, "What do you think that person is feeling?"

Parents tend to have high expectations

According to data from a national survey of 6,600 young adults born in 2001, professor Neal Halfon, University of California at Los Angeles (UCLA) and his colleagues found that parents' expectations for their children have a strong impact on their children's later achievements.

"Parents have expectations for their children as if they are pushing their children towards that goal," said Neal Halfon.

This coincides with another psychological study: the Pygmalion effect. This psychological effect states that: "what one person expects of another can become a self-fulfilling prophecy."

Parents show interest in their children's interests

Margot Machol Bisnow is the author of Raising an Entrepreneur: How to Help Your Child Achieve Their Dreams. She interviewed 70 parents of successful children to find out if there were any common parenting techniques.

One thing she noticed was that parents of successful children showed a genuine interest in their children's interests.

"Sports, video games, debate, music... Every child of the parents I talk to has a passion outside the classroom. Those parents never ask their children to give up their hobbies because they know it's good for their children's minds," says Margot.

Parents should limit arguing in front of their children.

According to a study from the University of Illinois, children who grow up in high-conflict families, whether their parents are divorced or not, tend to be less successful than children whose parents get along.

Professor Robert Hughes Jr., a professor in the Department of Human and Community Development at the University of Illinois, also mentioned: research has found that children raised in families with both parents will be much more successful than children who have to grow up in a situation where their parents often argue and disagree with each other.

Another study of young adults in their 20s found that those who witnessed their parents’ divorce as children were more likely to be depressed, sad, and haunted by the experience for the next 10 years of their lives. These young adults said that their parents’ divorce left them with a sense of loss and regret.

Parents with high education

A 2014 University of Michigan study found that mothers who completed high school or college were more likely to raise children who achieved the same or better educational attainment.

A study of 14,000 children who entered kindergarten between 1998 and 2007 found that children born to teenage mothers (18 years old or younger) were less likely to finish high school or go to college than other children.

Parents with high educational levels will influence their children's aspirations, and they will look to their parents as examples to strive for.