Why do young people like blind dating?

For nearly a year now, every weekend Thu, 27 years old, in Thanh Xuan district, Hanoi chooses a coffee shop that organizesblind dateTo participate, it costs from 300,000 VND to one million VND each time.

At the bar, she was blindfolded and randomly paired up and talked to the other person for more than 30 minutes. If she didn't like it, Thu would be able to change people, but if she agreed to get to know him, she would be able to see his face.

The 27-year-old woman said that her family had introduced her to many people in the past, but she always felt that they were not suitable. The blind dates arranged by her parents or acquaintances forced her to dress elegantly, eat modestly, and not be herself.

"If I refuse a matchmaker, it would be awkward for my family," Thu said. "I like the freedom to express my personality on a date with a stranger."

Thu said she felt comfortable confiding in strangers, especially in an open space (a coffee shop) that was quite safe. At the same time, she was surrounded by dozens of couples whispering.

However, the girl realized that she was difficult and had high standards, so she "dated" many times but was still not successful. She said that sometimes she met someone who was humorous but younger than her and had a childish way of thinking, and sometimes she met someone older but was dry and always let her take the initiative.

"Howeverblind date"It's still the way I want to find a boyfriend, even if I can't find a lover, it's still fun," Thu said.

Quynh Dan, 29, from Cau Giay District, was devastated after her boyfriend betrayed her. She lost faith in loving someone she knew well. "It took me a whole year to get over it, and talking and dating strangers helped me heal," Dan said.

After one timeblind date, she found someone who was compatible, gallant, gentle, willing to listen to her confide and did not demand a quick start to a love relationship. "Up to now, we have been talking for almost half a year, we still care for each other like lovers but not officially, he waited for me to be ready," she said.

Survey from the end of 2023 shows that the model of coffee shops and pubs organizesblind date- Blind dating is booming in Hanoi and Ho Chi Minh City with dozens of establishments. People in need send personal information to the organizer to arrange a suitable date. Some shop owners share the number of customersblind dateskyrocketed with 60-80% being young people.

Master of Psychology Nguyen Thi Dao Luu, lecturer at the Faculty of Social Sciences and Humanities, Van Lang University, said the boom caused by this form has solved the need for random pairing and dating for many young people.

"Not everyone has the opportunity to interact and make contact with many rich relationships, especially young people," said Ms. Luu.Blind datebecome the choice of many people who do not have enough skills to make friends, communicate and build relationships with people around them.

However, experts note that this form can give rise to many sensitive issues. Specifically, it is difficult to clearly separate entertainment from disguised acts (disguised prostitution) because the boundary between them is very fragile and difficult to control.

In early June, a coffee shop on Nguyen Trai Street, District 1, Ho Chi Minh City caused controversy because of its pairing model based on the Japanese model. The owner used a one-way mirror, so male customers could see female customers but not vice versa. The seats on the male side were placed lower, which was also considered sensitive and could easily lead to sexual harassment of women.

Mai Huyen once fell into a difficult situation whenblind dateShe had been preparing for a whole week to attend a pub in District 1, Ho Chi Minh City. Entering the pub, she found the space dark, dim and unsafe. "The male customers were still drunk and spoke rudely, I asked to leave before anything bad happened," Huyen said.

Ms. Luu said that dating strangers is never completely safe, on the contrary, it has many potential risks. "You have to be in contact with them for a long time to fully understand their personality, so it is never too careful," she said.

Experts advise against sharing personal information with strangers, paying attention to dating locations, and ending relationships with people who make you feel uncomfortable the first time you meet them.

Heard that a coffee shop in District 1, Ho Chi Minh City is organizingblind date, the male customer had to pay the entire cost for the date, Pham Chi came to try it out but was stunned when she saw a sign in front of the shop listing each service item with its price such as: 180,000 VND for one hour of chatting, 300,000 VND for three hours of unlimited chatting when paired, one million VND for three days of pairing, continuous chatting.

"Feeling that my value is being lowered, that money can buy anything, I will return to dating apps, when I really like someone I will agree to meet, I will be proactive and in control," said the 23-year-old girl in Ho Chi Minh City.