My younger brother scolded me when he found out I wanted to get married at 50.

November 12, 2021 14:39

She told me I was shallow, people just wanted to find a maid, not love to rush in.

I am 50 years old. For decades I lived with my mother and my brother's family. Last year I bought a house and moved out.

Although we say we live separately, my house is only a few dozen meters away from hers. Every day, my siblings are busy working from early morning until late at night, so in addition to farming, I still come to cook for my mother, take the children to school and take care of them.

A few months ago, I went to a wedding in my village and met a man over 60 years old. He was born in my village but moved to the city decades ago. That day, he came back to attend the wedding and then stayed in his hometown for a few days.

Knowing that I was single, he asked someone to let him know that he wanted to take me home to live with him.

The matchmaker told me that his wife had died a long time ago but he was raising his children alone. Now that the children were grown and had their own families, he wanted to find someone to accompany him in his old age. If I married him, I wouldn't have to worry about finances because he had a high pension and 5 rooms for workers to rent.

When he met me, he said the same thing. He wanted me to give him a chance to be friends.

When I was little, my parents told me how talented he was, so I admired him. Now, I feel that he is a straightforward and sincere person, so I feel satisfied.

However, when I talked to my brother and sister-in-law, they strongly objected.

My younger brother also scolded me. He said that I was old but had a shallow mind. People saw that I was healthy and hard-working so they wanted to take me as an unpaid maid, but how could we be friends when we were not on the same level?

She also said that since I was 50 years old, I should stay single for the rest of my life. If I felt bored living alone, I should take my mother in or come to her house to clean and take care of the children. That would be better than serving outsiders.

When I was sick and old, at least my siblings and grandchildren did not abandon me. But living with strangers, I don't know what will happen.

Your analysis made me think.

I want to have my own family but I am worried that what you said will come true. Now I don't know what to decide. I hope everyone can give me advice.