Wife 'confiscates' all her husband's money but still demands luxurious 8/3 gifts

I am a typical Vietnamese man, married for more than 10 years, with two well-behaved children. And like many other husbands, I give all my salary to my wife to manage (this was my wife's request when we first got married and I found it no problem so I quickly agreed).

She is a good housewife, spends very reasonably, takes care of everything for the family and has savings, so I feel secure entrusting my income to her.

My wife is very sensitive in listening and discovering the money I earn. To be honest, like other husbands whose wives control their money, I also have a secret fund but not much, and I am not good at hiding it, so my wife often finds it and takes it. I am a man with few personal needs, so I am not too bothered by the fact that my wife "confiscates" most of my extra income.

However, every International Women's Day, March 8, I face a difficult problem when my wife expects a luxurious, high-end, expensive gift that exceeds my small budget.

I used to think that March 8 gifts were just symbolic, the most important thing was the thought, not the material value, but my wife thought differently! She always wanted to receive expensive gifts such as high-end perfumes, new phones, designer handbags or exquisite jewelry.

I know my wife is not greedy or materialistic, she just wants me to express my feelings in the most formal way, because women today often say to each other that if a man loves someone, he will dare to spend money on that person. Besides wanting to feel important, my wife also wants to be proud when showing off to her friends.

Many times on March 8th, I wanted to give a simple gift like a bouquet of fresh flowers, a simple outfit or a cozy dinner, but my wife was unhappy, hinting and then reminding me directly. Sometimes I got angry and asked: "You keep all my money, so where do you get the money to buy a gift?", but unexpectedly my wife said: "You are a man, you have to worry!".

At those times, I felt both helpless and amused. She kept everything. Her monthly salary went to her. I paid for a light drinking party for my friends and was forced to "explain", but every holiday she told me "to take care of it".

Knowing that my wife is unreasonable but wanting to make her happy, for the past few years, every time International Women's Day (March 8) approaches, I have tried to find a gift that she wants. However, I always wonder, are those gifts what my wife really wants, or are they just expectations imposed by society?

Sometimes I want to say to my wife:"I love you not only for the gifts, but for the days we spent together, for the daily care, for the joys we shared," but then stopped because I knew my wife would still have a different view.

I still don't have the answer to the above question, I just know that no matter what, on March 8th I will still try to make my wife happy.