Living together, living separately

Recently, on a Facebook social networking site with 2.3 million likes and 3.4 million followers, a young person posted a story about moving out to live separately after 7 years of living with her husband’s parents. This story quickly attracted more than 5,600 reactions, nearly 700 comments and nearly 170 shares from both young and middle-aged people.

Most young people think that this couple’s decision to live separately is the right one with many benefits such as the young couple will be more independent and mature, and the parents themselves will be more comfortable with the concept of “love from afar, love from near”. However, many middle-aged people think that it is the selfishness of young people. When parents are healthy, children can live separately, but when parents are old and weak, they still need their children to live with them to take care of them…

Living together or living separately is an issue that receives the attention of many people with different views. Living separately is not bad, because when having a family, especially in modern life today, this is accepted by many parents. Children who get married and are allowed to live separately by their parents not only create freedom for them but also affirm their maturity "full feathers, full wings".

Moreover, in many modern families, when children move out, parents also have more freedom and comfort. After many years of living together and having to take care of their children, parents often do not have much time for themselves and their spouses.

When children move out, family relationships such as “mother-in-law – daughter-in-law”, “sister-in-law – brother-in-law” will also be better. When living separately, couples themselves will be more responsible for their small family, avoiding relying on grandparents from housework to taking care of children…

However, for many people, living with parents is a way to create more connection in the family, especially for families with only one child. When parents are still healthy, they can help their children take care of their grandchildren and do housework. When parents are old and weak, their children take care of them. This is a good tradition of Vietnamese people. When living together, there will be an opportunity to foster feelings, share, and understand each other better. The connection between generations is also stronger.

In fact, living separately from many people is not an easy decision. Parents must be very open-minded to accept it and the couple must also be financially stable and responsible. Living together or living separately is also a difficult choice for many young couples, especially for the husband when they have to choose between living with their parents to take care of them or choosing a free and comfortable life with their wife and children...

Depending on each person’s specific circumstances, living with parents or living separately will be the appropriate choice. For families where the relationships between members are sincere and close, living together or living separately does not greatly affect the feelings between parents and children.

As for families whose relationships between members are not harmonious, especially when there are conflicts, they should choose to live separately. Because in daily life there are many small things that can lead to conflicts and disagreements. If the shared home does not create a sense of peace and happiness, letting the children live separately is also a good and effective way to resolve relationships.