Mistakes in raising children?

Parenting is not easy. Educational standards change over time and sometimes we make the mistake of imposing old ideas on our children.

We tend to teach our children to obey, but teaching them to say “no” and accept “no” for an answer is worth doing.

Knowing when to say “no” is an important skill. As children, we can use this skill to protect our favorite toys from other children, and as adults, it helps us protect our personal boundaries. It is important to let your child know that they can say no to something they don’t like, but they should also know that other people can say no too.

We often think that talent is important to achieve success, but in reality, it only takes perseverance.

As they say, persistence wins every race. Most people can learn to draw, sing, or dance if they are persistent enough and willing to put in the time. Of course, some people will have an aptitude for science, while others will be more drawn to languages ​​or literature, but you can learn to do almost anything without any particular talent.

We teach children to avoid hardship and failure, but instead we need to teach them how to handle failure and let them learn from their own mistakes.

We certainly don’t want our children to repeat the same mistakes and make new ones. But everyone makes mistakes, that’s normal. It’s better to let them make their own decisions and learn from their mistakes.

We tend to tell children not to cry, instead of letting them live out their emotions.

Crying is one of the ways to release stress and this is very important for both children and adults. When a child cries, many parents may feel upset, thinking that they have done something wrong. This is a trigger for parenting that causes a strong emotional response. It is important not to suppress emotions but to work through them and it is also a valuable experience.

We often say we should be friends with all our colleagues, when it's better to be friends with the people we want to be friends with.

You may have been in a situation where when you send your child off to a camp or a sports team, you say something like, “Make friends.” But somehow, we forget to mention that not all kids are good or worthy of being friends. And some kids may not want to be friends with your child, and that’s okay. It’s great for kids to make friends, but they don’t have to be friends with everyone around them.

Try to convince them that adults know everything and are always right.

Children always ask millions of questions, and some of them may be so difficult that we don't know how to answer them. And there will certainly be some things we don't know, such as how many stars are in the sky, what the temperature is on Mars, and many other things. The right thing to say here is "let's find out together" rather than "because I know best".

Forcing children to finish everything on their plate, even when they are not hungry

Parents seem to be constantly concerned about their children's nutrition and want to make sure that their children never go hungry. Forcing children to finish everything on their plate can have negative consequences for their health.

We threaten our children with doctors, strangers,...

Many children are afraid of doctors and strangers, so parents can sometimes use these fears to their advantage. For example, they may threaten their child with “painful shots” or “giving them to strangers” if they don’t behave. In reality, the best thing you can do is tell your child the truth. This way, you can build a trusting and honest relationship with your child.

Teach children that it is polite to let other adults hug and kiss them.

We don't always like it when people shake our hands, touch our shoulders, or hug us. And children feel the same way, because they don't always like being hugged or kissed by grandparents or other relatives. You need to explain to your child that he or she can choose whether or not to sit on someone's lap.

Sometimes we raise our children with the idea that they are the center of the universe.

Of course, children are special to us. But it is a mistake to think that the whole world will treat them the same way their parents did - this can make children arrogant and self-centered.

According to VTC