Is being single at 40 really that scary?

They will feel entitled to make judgments and speculations about the group of "old" women who are "unmarriageable". They may think she must be terrible, unkind, unfriendly, crazy or too picky for men to dare to approach.

As a 40 year old woman who is not married and does not feel the need to get married, I would like to say that such a view is a bit paranoid.

Some unmarried women may be a bit passive, but there are also older unmarried women whose conditions are very good. They do not marry simply because they do not want to marry.

At the age of 20, I was beautiful, gentle and lovely, my mind was full of good wishes for love and life. As for my career at that time, I didn't have much to pursue. I always felt that as a woman, sooner or later I would get married and have children.

Then I got a boyfriend. He was handsome, his smile was like sunshine. I thought we were a perfect match, we had set a wedding date and our families were in touch. But then I found out he was having an affair with another girl. I heard that the other girl was also from a rich family.

Betrayed by my boyfriend, I was in pain for a very long time. It took a lot of time and the help of my family and friends for me to gradually recover and step out of the dark shadow of heartbreak. But since then, I have never loved again.

I saw through everything and regained my strength. Love is just one of the many human emotions, but the pain and damage it causes is much greater and more serious. I can live and work well without love.

Until today, although I am not married, I am beyond the reach of many men, including the man from the past. I am the director of a company I founded, doing well, very busy but also very professional and disciplined.

In my personal life, I live by principles, have my own interests and life plans. My free time is completely devoted to my friends and my parents. Although I don't have a man by my side, I feel that my life is fulfilling and enviable in the eyes of many people.

People say that at each age, we should do what we should do. For example, after finishing high school, we should go to university. At the age of 20, we can love freely, and at the age of 30, we should worry about getting married and having children. At the age of 40, we should think about saving money to help our children apply for school and find jobs. At the age of 50 and 60, we should worry about getting our children married...

But I think this is just our traditional thinking. If life had to run after such milestones, wouldn't we be very tired, not even stopping to see what our own values ​​are?

Everyone has different values ​​and different life plans. Marriage can make us happy, but that doesn't mean choosing not to get married is a mistake that leads to unhappiness. Because there are still people who choose to get married and are not happy.

At the end of life, everyone is the same, but in the end, there are countless paths. We can choose to walk and play, we can choose the path of struggle and pressure, we can choose to walk together, or we can choose to walk alone. As long as we are happy, any choice is not bad.

According to Laborer