4 types of education that ruin children's future

According to Professor Li Meijin, a famous Chinese expert in the field of psychology and child rearing, in order for parents' education to be most effective, they should absolutely avoid the four practices below.

Not teaching children to think independently

Many parents have a habit of making decisions for their children, regardless of their feelings. Even if the children have different opinions, parents still force them to follow their own opinions. If the children protest and the parents do not change their minds, it will cause tension in the relationship.

Most children, when they cannot convince their parents, leave everything to them. Over time, no matter what happens, they always seek help. Parents feel happy when their children always need them, they think that their children are reasonable and respect them.

This thinking is especially harmful to young children, because in the future when there are no more parents, children will have no one to rely on and will not know what path to take next.

Because they are used to depending on others, once there is no more support, children will not know how to cope or worse, always look for others to rely on.

"If you're lucky and meet a good person, it'll be fine, but if you meet a bad person, it's easy to go down the path of crime," said Ms. Ly Mai Can.

Not teaching children how to plan for the future

The reason why many people are passive in life, doing whatever they are told all their lives is because when they were young they had no plans for the future or goals in life. Such children really have no motivation to move forward, so parents should ask their children to make plans for themselves from an early age. Depending on each stage of development, the plan needs to be completed step by step with small goals.

Not teaching children the concept of time

Many parents have the habit of rushing their children to do everything, which will make children lose their sense of time because they always follow other people's arrangements. Therefore, parents should teach their children the consequences of procrastination, so that children will know how to manage their own time.

Doing specific things at specific times will make your child's daily life clear and structured. Creating the habit of valuing time from an early age is essential for a child to live independently later on.

Not teaching children about strength

Not everyone has a smooth life. Therefore, weak children will find it difficult to go far in the future. Many parents understand this, but when they see their children crying, they will stand up to help. Many children know this weakness of their parents, so they take advantage of it at any time and place. Whenever there is any difficulty, they will use tears to solve it and seek help from their parents.

According to Ms. Ly Mai Can, in such situations, parents should pay attention, not always when the child cries, they run to the child immediately. "Let the child understand where their key point is, they need to learn to become strong, solve problems themselves," she said. Of course, according to experts, sometimes children's abilities are limited and parents can help in time, but only in deserving cases.