What are the signs that your child is under pressure from his parents?

Parents always put too much expectation on their children and even compare them with their peers, causing these children to suffer a lot of pressure. There are many ways to raise and motivate children to strive in life as well as in their studies.

Therefore, parents should try to learn some better ways of raising children than the current way, to avoid the situation where children show some signs of being pressured by their parents.

Over-controlling children

Setting too many expectations can easily lead to the over-controlling behavior that many parents today are guilty of. If you are constantly scrutinizing your child’s daily activities such as homework, chores, and even playtime to make sure that he or she is doing everything the way you want, it can easily put pressure on your child.

It is right for parents to care for their children, but it is not right to interfere too much in their children's lives. Let children make mistakes and face the consequences. This will help them grow up a lot.

Feeling pressured when parents criticize more than praise

Nowadays, many parents only pay attention to wrongdoings and ignore good deeds. Many parents even scold their children instead of praising them. They do not think that children love to be praised and that strict education is the only way to become good people.

Giving too much criticism will not motivate children to improve but will only put pressure on them. Normally, no one likes to constantly hear wrong things. Therefore, to help your child achieve good results, you need to combine praise when they study well and give correct comments rather than criticism.

Parents often lose their temper

Parents often impose and set high expectations on their children, which can easily lead to disappointment and frequent anger towards their children when they cannot achieve the desired results. The atmosphere in the family is always stuffy and tense.

Compare your child with friends

Being compared to siblings or peers is one of the most stressful things a child can do. This unintentionally forces children to do everything to be better than everyone else, even ignoring their own needs or feelings in order to only care about immediate benefits.

This action of many parents has become a double-edged sword, making children's psychology worse and worse, creating a reaction of inhibition because they have to give up their own interests to follow another model, not of their own choosing.

Always assume that every action has a serious impact.

Threats like: "If you don't get good grades, don't go out anymore", "You will lose to your friends if you can't do this homework"... will make children think that they only have one chance to do everything.

However, in reality, children always have many opportunities to express themselves, just waiting for the right time. Let's guide children to negative thoughts instead of negative thoughts that many parents are having.

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