Heartbreaking family murder

Since the beginning of June, public opinion has been stirred up and heartbroken several times by deaths caused by fathers, mothers, and children to each other.

On June 7, a 12th grade male student in Vinh Xuyen village, Vinh Hoa commune, Ninh Giang district (Hai Duong) died unexpectedly. The cause of death was recently revealed to be that he was hit in the back of the neck with a wooden stick by his biological father after being hit on the arms and legs on the evening of June 5 just because he came home late from playing.

Previously, public opinion was also stirred up by a case of a daughter killing her father and then jumping into a river with her young child in Thai Binh on June 4. Three people in the family, three generations, from the elderly to an innocent 5-year-old child, all lost their lives due to a conflict.

A series of painful family murders has many people worried about family relationships today.

After the incident of a 12th grade male student being beaten to death in Hai Duong mentioned above, the father was detained for investigation. Surely the father in the prison cell must be tormented and regretful because he himself took away his son's life just because of a moment of rashness and anger that he could not control his actions.

Was it because Dad was afraid that I would come home late and be in danger, and there would be many temptations? And it was during the exam period, maybe Dad was worried that it would affect my studies? And with a little more temper, anger erupted inside him, Dad beat me and unfortunately an unfortunate incident happened? If the answer is correct, didn't Dad kill me because he loved me!?

When I was a child, in the countryside, I saw many scenes of parents beating their children with a heavy whip to deter and discipline them. Now it is less common. "Spare the rod and spoil the child" also needs control, extent and love to avoid causing pain and loss both physically and mentally to children.

The child is gone, the father will go to jail and live in torment for the rest of his life, what will happen to the mother and the younger brother? A family murder is so painful!

As for the case in Thai Binh, people said that the daughter had repeatedly held a knife and threatened to kill her father before she actually did it. I read an article that said her actions were the ultimate form of unfilial piety. Thinking about it, there must have been some reason for the girl to actually do what she had predicted. And when she killed her father, she must have been in so much pain and fear that she didn't want to live anymore and jumped into the river with her child, running away from life. When the family discovered that the father had died unexpectedly, they guessed that the murderer was a relative but did not report it to the authorities. So is it the fault of the girl alone, just because she was extremely unfilial?

I believe that family members, especially children and biological parents, are born with the instinct to love and protect each other, and it is not easy to take each other's lives like that. But then life pushes. People's hearts can change, even become evil. Or because of a little undesirable circumstances, a little improper love can also spark conflict and cause the death of a family...

Family members need to be loved, shared and empathized more to avoid even small conflicts, to avoid the accumulation of anger into resentment. Today's society develops rapidly, parents and children can belong to two ideologies, grow up in two completely different worlds, and their ways of thinking can also be different. Meanwhile, the time to talk, share and live together is reduced a lot. Therefore, the further away, the smaller conflicts become big conflicts, there is a lot of love but it is misunderstood as nothing, sometimes too much becomes selfishness and cruelty.

In the above two cases and in many other cases, if the people involved and also the family members shared and listened more, not only in that moment but throughout life and the whole process, then perhaps no one would have to suffer because of a blood murder.