Get your children to listen and respect you

In fact, children only listen when you and they have mutual respect. There are many other factors involved. Here are some tips on how to get your children to listen to you and respect you.

Show mutual respect

You can get your children to obey you by using your “superior” power and forcing them to do what you want, but your relationship with them will not be good that way. The price to pay for such treatment is resentment and even hatred from children towards their parents.

If you don’t show respect to your children, it will be difficult to get them to do the same for you. They may comply with the pressure at the time, but if you act like this for a long time and continuously, one day you will regret it. The foundation of any relationship must start with mutual respect, including the parent-child relationship.

Avoid yelling

When yelling and complaining are the dominant ways of communicating in a relationship, children will not be able to understand whether these actions come from worry or concern, but will only feel resentful and annoyed with their parents. No one wants to feel dominated, nor does anyone want to feel inferior to another person.

Show your child that you value them through respectful gestures. You are still the parent, but you can be both approachable and strict. Start with a reminder when your child makes a mistake, then you can give appropriate punishments so that your child understands that what he did was wrong. However, you should not take your emotions out on your child, even if you are angry, try to stay calm and talk to your child frankly.

Give them your full attention

When you are talking to your child, look them in the eye and give them your full attention. This approach will show them how important they are to you, as well as make them feel more secure and interested in sharing and listening.

In a typical example, when you want to remind your child to focus on doing homework, but you are talking while staring at your phone, the interaction will no longer be effective and meaningful. If the parent acts a little differently: “It’s time to stop watching TV and do your homework, you can watch after you finish your study tasks for today”, it will often have a better result because the child has full attention.

Give your child your undivided attention when you want them to listen and when they need someone to talk to, by communicating face-to-face with them. Let them know that you care and are serious about what you are saying. This will go a long way in helping your child actively listen and respond to what you say.

Be a good role model

If you want your child to listen to you and respect you, you must also be a good role model. Children watch and even imitate their parents and other people who are around them and care for them. Therefore, parents are the people who have the greatest influence on children.

If you are against disobeying rules or regulations, you must model this clearly in your daily life so that your child understands and follows. Children will learn that they must be disciplined and listen to their parents in many situations. Be an example of listening and respecting others through your own actions and thoughts.

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