We have just passed the Vu Lan festival (full moon day of the 7th lunar month). Is filial piety a sacred duty, a meaningful act of every child during the years their parents are still alive, or is it only shown on Vu Lan?
There have been heartbreaking stories about the relationship and behavior between children and parents. Because they did not agree with the division of land, 3 daughters made an appointment to go to their mother's house to break down the wall. After breaking, they took a 10-liter can of gasoline and poured it on the floor, closed the living room door to prevent anyone from coming in to intervene, then held their mother tightly and set her on fire. The mother and 2 daughters did not survive. The remaining daughter received more than 22 years in prison. Then there were stories of children dragging their feet in taking care of their parents, causing decrepit old men and women to pack up and go to another child's house once a month. Or there were stories of children living in a luxurious house, but their parents living in a shabby house on the same piece of land...
Although the above stories happened in or outside Hai Duong, they are true stories, for each child to look back at themselves, to reflect, to correct themselves. Although they are isolated, each person cannot help but feel sorry and shocked at the unethical, unscrupulous actions, putting money above filial piety. Among all crimes, unfilial piety is the most condemnable - a great act of disloyalty, not tolerated by heaven, not forgiven by earth. Those who commit it are considered rebellious children by society.
Supporting parents is not only stipulated in the categories of ethics, culture, and education but is also recorded in the Law on Marriage and Family: Children must have The duty to love, respect, be grateful, be filial, support parents, and preserve the honor and good traditions of the family. Children have the duty to care for and support their parents, especially when parents lose their civil capacity, are sick, old, or disabled; in the case of a family with many children, the children must together care for and support their parents.
For thousands of years, parents have always devoted all their love, care, and sacrifice for their children. Parents in the countryside eat the most stunted chicken and the most stale fruit, and save the fattest chicken and the freshest fruit for their children. When their children go to university, even though their parents don't know what Hanoi looks like, they are willing to borrow money, sell buffaloes, cows, and rice for their children to go to school. When their children graduate, even though their fathers only ride bicycles, they still try to buy them a motorbike to go to work. The merit and gratitude of parents are as great as the sky and the sea.
There are children who always remember their parents' sacrifices, so whether in difficult times or successful times, they always put filial piety first. Wealthy people rebuild new houses for their parents to enjoy in their old age. Those who are less wealthy buy their parents a new TV. Those who are not rich in material things but live nearby visit them morning and night, and bring them delicious food to offer them. Many children not only focus on showing filial piety, serving and taking care of their parents materially but also spiritually. Some people save up every year to take their parents on domestic and foreign trips, visit famous places; take their parents for regular medical checkups...
Time passes, not everyone is lucky enough to have both parents. Some people only have one parent, some are orphans. Benjamin Franklin - the founding father of the United States said "Never put off until tomorrow what you can do today". The same goes for taking care of and showing filial piety to your parents. Show filial piety to your parents with all you can, don't let time pass, so that when your parents pass away, if you want to be close to them, no one will be there, then it will be too late to regret.
Vu Lan is just an occasion to show filial piety, to demonstrate the morality of children towards their parents. But showing filial piety to parents is something that one must do for the rest of one's life in order to repay the immense upbringing of their parents!
TIEN HUY