Advantages of being single

Mind uncluttered

Relationship expert and bestselling author Susan Winter says relationships are mentally taxing. “Intimacy takes up a lot of space in our heads. While much of this happens unconsciously, our ability to focus on the individual is diminished,” says Winter.

According to Winter, when we are in love, we are forced to care and worry about our lover, sometimes thinking about even the smallest arguments. This type of stress can hinder happiness by making people unable to live in the present.

"Emotional dissonance can be all-consuming because it takes us out of the present moment and situation. This is true whether we're arguing or worrying about our partner's health and well-being," Winter says.

On the contrary, being single makes room for new thoughts and dreams to develop.

You are always ready for anything

Being single forces you to be more independent, says Dr. Niloo Dardashti, a New York-based psychologist and relationship expert. Without the constraints of a relationship, your life is completely your own.

You take risks, have more adventures and new things in your journey without anything or anyone hindering you.

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Take time to connect with yourself

Dr. Dardashti says that when people are in a relationship, they often say they lose themselves. That's largely because people stop doing things independently.

They have less time alone to focus on personal growth. “When you’re alone, you have more access to what’s inside you,” the expert says.

Have the opportunity to find out what you want

Jenny Taitz, PhD, clinical psychologist and author of “How to Be Single and Happy,” sees being single as an opportunity to figure out your own “mission statement.” According to Taitz, this is a crucial time to understand who you are and what you stand for.

When we are no longer in a relationship, we really have time to figure out what is important to us and what we value. It is a time to recalibrate and reflect on the lessons learned from past relationships, reassess who you are and where you want to be in life.

It is the best choice
Being in a relationship is not always the best option for everyone. If we think about the three options: happy being single, unhappy in a relationship, unhappy being single, then being single and happy seems to be the most viable option for those who are looking for love but can’t find it.

To be truly happy single, Dr. Taitz recommends practicing mindfulness. “A lot of happiness is about living in the present moment. Doing this will enrich other aspects of your life as well,” she says.

You can strengthen your friendships, design a great day, spend time alone reflecting on how you'll meet someone or what problems you're having.

Be more financially responsible

One of the perks people often attribute to relationships is that both partners can share financial responsibilities and burdens. However, being single can encourage you to be more frugal and financially independent, experts say.

Andrea Syrtash, a relationship expert, says that sometimes being single and not having to share expenses with others can push you to be more resourceful.

Prioritize self-care

When we are single, we are forced to focus on the things that matter in life, such as exercising, socializing with friends, and spending time focusing on personal aspirations.

“No amount of distraction can pull us away from self-care and personal growth,” says Winter.

More confident

“Sometimes we rely on our partners more than we need to,” says Dr. Dardashti. Being alone, she says, is empowering, and gives you the opportunity to tap into your inner strength, which can lead to greater self-confidence.

"Being single is almost impossible if you're in a relationship. We always have in our heads the idea that we're still married," she says.

According to VnExpress