Teaching children is like wrestling.

My brother opened the gate and told me to wait for her, he had to go on the night shift. Knowing that I was coming over, Mai called out from My's room:

- You sit down and wait for me a moment. I will show My this math problem right away!

Then her voice kept ringing out:

- You have to subtract the length from the difference to get the width. What is the length? What is the difference? Oh my gosh, you're so stupid, you don't even know that? I'm going crazy because of you, my child! Here, that's the length, that's the difference, subtract it! Okay? Now calculate the area of ​​the land. Multiply the length by the width. There, that's all you can do and you can't do it. Oh, how did you multiply to get that result? It should be this much! Look...

- Look, I have to tutor my child every night until my throat is sore! It's unbearable - Ms. Mai went out, sat down on a chair and explained to me.

I smiled and said:

- It's because you take care of your child too closely! And on Saturdays and Sundays, you also have to let your child rest, play, and have fun!

- Studying all day and night still doesn't help anyone, now you tell him to play and entertain himself so he will stay ignorant forever? - Ms. Mai jumped up.

Actually, I have seen the sister-in-law tutoring children in many families. I know that all parents want their children to study well and have high expectations for their children, so it is right to spend time tutoring their children at home. I myself often do the same. But how to tutor is a matter of discussion. Many parents, when it is time for self-study, yell at their children to sit at the table and then sit there closely to supervise. However, their children's learning results do not improve, and even regress.

On the other hand, there are parents who are interested in achievements and are afraid that their children will not be praised by the teacher, so they are willing to do their children's homework for them, which unintentionally makes them lazy and dependent. I told Ms. Mai about my way of tutoring my children, which is to only help when they need it. When they ask, I explain to them what they do not understand, but do not do it for them. Besides, on weekends, I let my children play freely or reward them with their favorite books or play physical games with their parents at home or cook together... The purpose of tutoring children is to improve their productivity and learning quality. Finally, I concluded:

- I think parents need to build good habits for children, that is, self-discipline, interest in learning, and confidence in their abilities are the most important.

Hearing me say this, Ms. Mai clicked her tongue and said:

- Everyone wants their children to study independently, but kids nowadays are more interested in watching TV and playing games than studying, teacher! I don't know about your Minh, but if my daughter My doesn't help closely, she will give up on her homework. If she doesn't help, she will just do it perfunctorily, sometimes not getting any of the homework right.

I happily told her:

- This is when we need to work closely with the teacher. The teacher just needs to check regularly and remind the child gently but seriously and the child will change.

Ms. Mai is still wondering:

- Is that possible? I'm just afraid...

- Don't be afraid, just "loosen" your control. I believe My will study more actively and make progress. After a while, My will know how to arrange a reasonable study plan and practice the habit of working focused and seriously even without anyone supervising her!

Hearing me say this, Ms. Mai felt more assured. She nodded and said:

- I understand! It is really necessary to build self-awareness and interest in learning in children. I will learn from you and change the way I teach my child to study. Seeing you leisurely but my child still studies well, I really admire you!

TRAN THUY LINH