The three most difficult times in marriage

Accordingly, marriages are divided into 5 stages:

Year 1-2: Very risky

Year 3-4: Mild risk

Years 5-8: Very risky

Years 9-15: Low Risk

15 years and older: Low to mild risk

Most researchers believe that most divorces occur during the "High Risk" phase of marriage, specifically the following milestones.

Most divorces occur during the "High Risk" phase of marriage.

First year of marriage

According to marriage therapist Aimee Hartstein (USA), the first year of marriage is really difficult, even if the couple has lived together before. Even if they had a wonderful wedding and a lot of fun planning it, life after the big day can still be a bit different, because the state of preparation and excitement for the wedding suddenly ends and you return to normal life. This can bring about a sense of loss.

According to Aimee, marriage is different from just being a couple, it is different from cohabitation. Cohabitation is a relatively easy way out, whereas with marriage, you are signing a binding contract. Arguments and disappointments become more important and heavy. In addition, both parties are suddenly legally responsible for each other's finances, which can be stressful.

5th year of marriage

The first real problems can start in the fifth year of marriage. During this period, the couple’s children are still young and need a lot of attention. This is also the stage of economic accumulation, building a house, building relationships with other family members. Arguments about finances and debt can also have very serious consequences. Some people may feel that they do not have enough space to be themselves. In addition, lack of sexual desire with the partner can also cause divorce.

After 5 years together, many couples start thinking about divorce and seek out lawyers. This is considered one of the most difficult milestones for any couple.

After 10 years of marriage

In a study conducted by Brigham Young University (USA), 2,000 women surveyed over 35 years said their level of marital dissatisfaction peaked around the 10th year of marriage.

Research finds that after 10 years, lingering issues can have the power to tear a family apart or break the heart of either party.

In this study, women reported their grievances, such as "I do all the work around the house" to "He spends too much money" or "He is very undisciplined with the kids." The main reasons for divorce during this stage were infidelity, boredom with the marriage, and distance.

According to VnExpress